neverland is calling

T-minus two days until my second National Universities Cheerleading Competition. Bring it on.


Tony Ward RTW Fall/Winter 2013-2014


Tony Ward RTW Fall/Winter 2013-2014

My oldest brother’s reaction to my older brother being born: I shall share teddy with him

My older brothers’ reactions to my birth: She has ruined our lives.

I desperately hope they like me better now than they did then

Sadly my granny passed away today but she leaves me with a number of fond memories and so many important lessons… However, I far prefer the lessons which make me laugh

  • wearing a pair of dangly earrings will solve all your problems
  • when in doubt with decor add a wind chime
  • don’t feed squirrels because they will come back and they will bring friends
  • a fabulous bag is extra fabulous when paired with a fabulous pair of shoes
  • always keep a bottle of something under your work desk (she had orange juice, I tend to opt for wine)

but in all seriousness, she taught me not to be afraid of change because change is good, she taught me that people have the right over their own bodies and their own life and she taught me that nothing is impossible. And now she has three blonde bombshell graddaughers (along with a number of other wonderful grandchildren) to carry on.

I’m not the girl your mother warns you about.
I won’t kiss your best friend or break your heart.
I won’t make you choose between what you love to do & me.
I’m not cold. I’m not reckless.

I’m the girl your father mentions when your mom’s not around.
I’m the girl that gets away.

I will love you more than anything.
I will kiss you when you cry.
I will stand by your side until you decide otherwise.

And you’re just like your father, so you will.

You’ll let me go & I won’t look back,
But you will.
I promise you, you will.

I’m that girl.

(via queer-lust)

HIMYM just spent an entire season on the weekend of Robin and Barney’s wedding, only to have them get divorced in the blink of an eye. My boss says using vulgar language makes us all look bad, but I can’t help it in this instance: This is complete bullshit. I loved Robin and Ted as a couple early on, but I bought their eventual breakup. Then I got on board with Robin and Barney as a pair, partially because of the fun chemistry between Cobie Smulders and Neil Patrick Harris, and partially because the show absolutely insisted we do so. The show went back and forth on Robin and Barney to a degree that was irritating even to long-term fans like me — it’s okay to break up, and it’s okay to get back together, but only once. Finally, the show was giving us the really hard sell on these two: Two people who swore off marriage somehow decide to marry each other. And then more back and forth, more lollygagging with the shenanigans of the weekend, more cold feet from both sides, until last week’s agonizing episode where they finally, finally finally, got married. We were supposed to be happy for them, right? Wasn’t that the point of the last 20 episodes?
Apparently not. […]

Speaking of Barney, however touching the scene was when he met his daughter Ellie, that does not excuse how putrid and galling it is for him and the other characters to refer to her mother as merely “Number 31.” I get it, Barney’s a womanizer. And I have long found his character to be both brutally transphobic and deeply misogynistic. He’s welcome to have as much sex as he wants, and to have casual, even anonymous sex, because whatever happens between consenting adults is their business. But when the person you’re going to raise a child with doesn’t even get a name? That’s grotesque. And the show’s insistence that Barney was somehow reformed by becoming the father of a daughter is off-base, too. Telling women how to dress, when to drink, and what kind self-regard they should have is patronizing, overstepping, and just more of Barney’s typical disrespectful, dehumanizing, dismissive behavior toward women.

Recent seasons of How I Met Your Mother have disappointed me. But it’s one thing when a show makes character choices or pacing decisions I don’t care for — and boy, HIMYM has made a lot of those. It’s another thing, though, when a show makes a choice I don’t respect. Killing the mom is bad enough, but making this a Ted-and-Robin love story is bailing on the central conceit of the show. You might even call it a slap in the face.